CONTENTS:
Introduction
Marriage in Islam
A Good Choice
Mutual Advice
True Love Between
the Couple
INTRODUCTION
A happy and successful marriage is a necessary goal for anyone who is
either already married or is thinking about it. Building the family is
essential for the complete establishment of our religion Islam, as the
family is the cornerstone of the social structure. A successful and purposeful
marriage is the indispensable foundation of this cornerstone.
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MARRIAGE
IN ISLAM
When Islam came with guidance for mankind, it came with a complete and
comprehensive legal system.
Allah says in the Holy Quraan :
Today, I have perfected for you your religion.
In Islam, there is a solution for any legal problem. Hazrat Abu Zarr
says
The Prophet
left us with such knowledge that even if a bird changed course in the sky
we have already been given signs for it.
( Musnad-e-Ahmed )
Married life, like other issues, has been given its due share of legislation
and Islam has tackled all its aspects such that it makes for a happy and
prosperous life.
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A
GOOD CHOICE
Hazrat Abu Hurairah
narrates that the Prophet
said:
A woman is married for one of four reasons: for her beauty,
her wealth, her genealogy or her faith. So be successful with a woman of
faith. May Allah bless you.
( Bukhari )
No one disagrees that the right choice has to be made. The issue is what
constitutes a good choice.
Many people give importance to beauty, wealth and genealogy. This is
fine except when they are given priority over faith. Faith is the most
important criterion in the choice of a spouse. Just as men are advised
to make a good choice for a bride, the parents or guardians of the girl
should also consider the right choice for their daughter.
It is disappointing that people ask many questions about how much a
man earns and what kind of house he will provide for his wife but do not
care to ask about the state of his faith. The principle in marriage is
faith. The Prophet
said :
When a man whose character and faith you like approaches you
( for marriage) then marry him. If you do not then there will be great
trials and widespread disruption on earth.
( Tirmizi )
When looking for a good choice, the family of the spouse-to-be should also
be considered. Sometimes, the family of the spouse may influence their
children so much that they can break up the marriage.
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MUTUAL
ADVICE
This plays a very big role in the development of marriage and the household
in general. Spouses should advise one another and even take account of
and check one another. It is a mistake to think that this role is reserved
for the husband and the wife should tolerate the mistakes of the husband.
Each should point out, with affection, the mistakes of the other and each
should accept their own faults.
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TRUE
LOVE BETWEEN THE COUPLE
Marriage cannot be successful without this. Although this is an issue
which does not follow any rationale, each spouse should at least express
love towards the other. The Holy Prophet Muhammad
used to offer words of love and affection towards His wives. We should
follow Him and not be shy or reluctant about the matter.
MAY
ALMIGHTY ALLAH MAKE MUSLIM MARRIAGES A MEANS OF LONG LASTING HAPPINESS
FOR THE COUPLE AND THEIR
FAMILIES
AMEEN.
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